Attaching your worth to someone else keeps you from…

• saying “no” when you’re at capacity so you keep abandoning your own body’s signals for rest and care.
• believing you’re enough as you are because you’re constantly scanning others’ moods for signs you messed up.
• asking for what you truly want because deep down you believe your needs are a burden.
• trusting you won’t be abandoned because you’re convinced perfection and people pleasing is the only way to be worthy of love.
• allowing yourself to show anger because you’ve learned that being seen as “angry” makes you unlikable, difficult, or too much.

This is not a compassionate way to treat yourself, and it’s not what you’d want to see your bestie or any loved one do. Yet so many women carry this invisible weight: believing their only worth is in how well they keep the peace, hold things together, or sacrifice themselves for everyone else.

The truth? Codependency doesn’t just strain your relationships. It chips away at your energy, your confidence, and your sense of who you are. 

Here’s the good news: once you see these patterns for what they are, you can break up with them. You can stop abandoning yourself and start building a relationship with YOU that feels steady, nourishing, and real.

 

Break up with codependency so you can stop:

• dropping your priorities the moment someone else needs something (because creating boundaries terrifies you and it’s easier to make excuses for why they won’t work)
• checking your phone every 30 seconds to see if he texted you back (do YOU even like him???)
• cosplaying other people’s feelings as your feelings (and forgetting you have feelings)
• silencing your anger and slapping on a smile just to keep the peace (while resentment eats you alive on the inside)
• chasing approval like you can’t breathe without it (because deep down you don’t YET believe you’re enough on your own)

All this does is make you burn out, searching for yourself in relationships and jobs where you keep trying to make everyone happy and do the “right” things to figure out who you are, but it’s not getting you anywhere.

 

Codependency says:

• “If you’re upset with me, I must have done something wrong.”
• “If you don’t like my boundary, maybe I shouldn’t have made it.”
• “If you’re anxious or sad, it’s my job to fix it.”
• “When you’re happy, I can finally relax!”
• “I can’t disappoint you because then you’ll leave me.”

If these thoughts run through your head, you’re not broken, and it’s NOT your intuition, it’s codependency. You’ve just been trained to believe that abandoning yourself keeps you safe. Codependency taught you this. My workshop will help you unlearn it because…

Codependency is NOT a personal failing

It comes from:

• systemic trauma (patriarchy, colonialism, capitalism, racism, ableism) necessitating survival and fear of not belonging which is also…
• passed down through intergenerational trauma and then…
• manifesting in your relationships with you relying on what other people do to decide what you want (even though it’s not what you want)

Yes, codependency has systemic roots, but that doesn’t mean you are destined to be codependent forever! (in fact, breaking up with codependency also means you aren’t giving into what extractive systems want you to do)

Breaking up with codependency looks like:

• Unapologetically knowing what YOU want and knowing that if someone has a problem with that, that’s something THEY have to deal with, not you!
• Starting that thing you kept putting off because you were too busy managing the group chat and dropping everything for everyone else.
• Not feeling guilty for choosing rest over rescuing everyone else.
• Saying “no” without writing a three-paragraph apology afterward because you don’t feel like you have to prove you’re humanity anymore.
• Letting someone be disappointed without it destroying your peace…and knowing that discomfort is required to grow into your FULL self.

This free workshop will identify how your codependency shows up so you can stop wearing the mask other people expect you to wear and start reclaiming the space that has always been yours, but you’ve pushed it aside because you were taught that being “selfless” was more important than taking care of yourself. 

 

And forward this to a friend!